Oh, how many Hail Mary’s I said when I watched one bride’s (thank-fully not one of my clients) pastor mispronounce her name the entire ceremony. The officiant of your wedding should be someone who knows you and your groom, who understands who you are as a couple… someone who should rightfully be solidifying you into a serious union. No rent-a-rabbi or purchase a priest. You have to find someone, whether it’s through going to church and seeking out the officiant, asking a friend, or searching for one on the Internet. Don’t introduce yourself to your officiant for the first time when you walk down the aisle! You have to meet the person and have a connection with him or her.
The officiant has to know something about you:
- how and where you fell in love
- what makes you two perfect for each other
- why you are going to be something special
Meet with him or her: (Sad but the truth: Some brides spend more time with their cake baker more than with their officiant, so don’t let that be true for you!) When deciding if an officiant is the right fit for you, describe to him or her, what kind of ceremony you are looking for, see what he or she typically provides, and hopefully, you will make a match!
*Very Important Tip:
- Make sure all your marriage licenses, legal and religious paperwork is handled before you get married! Forgetting these documents happens too often and can delay your ceremony!
From David, With Love
*excerpted from The Big White Book of Weddings (St. Martin’s Griffin)